For years, life felt REALLY messy with two little kids.
(I know there are plenty of mamas with lots more kids, but man, 2 can feel like 8 sometimes. 1, 2, 8, or 18 — you ALL have my utmost respect.)
As expats and nomads, I often don’t have a dedicated office. I run my business from my backpack, coffee shops, and various spaces in our home.
And I used to constantly feel pulled in too many directions — like I wasn’t getting much done and also wasn’t spending time as a family.
And I realized that I was trying to live too much “in the middle.”
I was trying to juggle being a mama, a wife, a travel/life/household logistics coordinator and an industry leader and influencer too close together, so that nothing ends up getting enough focus and attention and everything feels half-assed.
Can you relate?!
What I realized is that we could keep doing what we were doing, day in and day out, and *maybe* inch forward.
But it would come at a price.
For me, I suspect the price would be feeling like a failure at everything and resenting it.
And I would never get real momentum going.
And, for me and my personality, momentum is rocket fuel.
I realized that instead of living “in the middle” of all the things, I have to decisively move all the way into one role (for a clear, defined period of time), then to the other.
I need to spend a full day (or at least an afternoon) JUST being mama. Then, I need a full day (or at least a morning) focusing on work.
And in order to do that, I needed help. WE needed help, as a family.
So, we sought out help.
We decided that what would be a good fit for us would be a live-in nanny/big sister. Another adult in the house who could help with the kids, laundry, cooking, household stuff. In the process of reviewing profiles of 200+ women, adjusting to the transition of having someone live with us, and the details in between, I know this to be true:
I *can* be the mama, the wife, and the leader I want to be.
I just need help. And a plan to give each the attention that it deserves.
And, the acceptance that it’s just gonna be a little messy.
As Robin Sharma is quoted as saying, “Change is hard at first, messy in the middle, and gorgeous at the end.”
We can’t get to the gorgeous without the hard and the mess.